How long should someone grieve after a loved one dies? It just depends on how long that person thinks they should grieve. Like a year ago one of my close friends died in a car wreck, and I’m still not able to really get over it. It still hurts and he has been gone for awhile. So in my own opinion, grieve. But don’t wallow in self pity, or blame yourself for their death. Be there for the other people that are grieving for that same person because that person has a bunch of people that love him or her, and need somebody that can be there for them through this hard time. I always will grieve for all my friends that have passed away, but I don’t beat myself up about their death. I go on living like I should just with one less person in it. It hurts that their gone but at least there are people here on this earth to remember them, and not let them be forgotten.